I Became A Self Made Man Through Self Control. This was a mixed message I got as a child. Everyone preached you need to make your own destiny. Yet they molded you to walk, dress and act like everyone else
When being taught self-control, I always seen how it was in the best interest of the person who was teaching me self-control. It was not to my benefit. As there was nothing to be learned through the process. This is the way I seen it, because no one teaching me self control spent any time with me explaining the benefits. Without direction I looked at life through my eyes using the information I had. This information was that the people teaching me self-control had an easier life at my expense. Therefore I resisted any authority.
When I was in 10th grade my math teacher told me he really could use me as a tutor. I wanted to be a tutor. He said that the rest of the teachers would only let me be a tutor if I did my homework in all my classes. I would not present a good image of a tutor the way I was. I just looked at him an said “I guess you really do not want me as a tutor”. Part of me died that day. I gave up something I wanted so that they did not have control of me. Today I understand that I was a self-made man all along and these decisions are what make a self-made man, good or bad.
They presented it as a case of lack of self-control on my part. That I would be teaching others to not do homework, instead of teaching math.
Today I know my strengths and weaknesses. I do not let emotions make my decisions, like I did in 10th grade and most of my life. Most people around me tell me how it is in my best interest to exercise self control. While it is really their interests they are talking about. I need to know the difference.
Personal self-control separates you from the normal way of thinking. This is essential in becoming a self-made man. Self control is not denying who you are. It is not giving control of my life to others. Personal self-control frees me to live my life as I choose and accomplish all the goals I set for myself.