Category Archives: Goals

Behavior-Based Goals and Rewards

Even when you are focusing on behavior-based goals, you want to start by creating a goal that is more of a “big picture” – the end-of-the-rainbow scenario. One creative way to do this is to visualize what it is you want, or you need to come up with a picture that represents to you the outcome. Practice bringing up this picture in your mind and get all of your senses involved. What types of sensory effects does this picture create for you? The more you can engage your entire brain in the process; the more realistic the big-picture goal will be. In this article, we will explore the rewards and behavior-based goals.

When you’ve solidified your end goal, turn your attention to what types of actions you’ll need to take to secure that goal in your future. What kinds of skills and habits will you need to form, or build, and of these, which seem inherently more difficult for you, being the unique person that you are?

Reward Yourself

One of the proven ways to increase your success in achieving your goals is by giving yourself small rewards along the way. Behavior-based goals are measurable. At set intervals, you review Behavior Based Goalswhat you have accomplished, then celebrate. Celebrating can be simple as listening to your favorite Merle Haggard album or having an ice cream cone. It needs to be meaningful and bring enjoyment to you.

This process is much more realistic than merely setting a goal and expecting to motivate yourself through the time, energy, and work that it will take to achieve that goal. Your chances are much more apt to keep your momentum if you know that, periodically, you’ll reward yourself for a job well done.

Regular rewards will work to your benefit by keeping your motivation and drive to reach your goal, as well as developing new positive habits while you’re getting there.

Pick Your Reward

The fun of goal-setting is not only visualizing the end goal but taking time along the journey to creatively giving yourself rewards along the way. Some people enjoy monetary rewards, and others might be more motivated by taking some time just for themselves in a favorite quiet place. You may want a night out on the town, or you might reward themselves with learning a new skill. To each their own, but utilizing a reward system while continuing to develop behavior-based goals will work in all areas of one’s life, whether it is business, relationships, health, or personal development!

Transform Your Life by Doing Something You Love

Many people go to college to do what they believe they have want to do for the rest of their lives. The first several years may be rewarding, and then they start to realize this is something they are going to do until they retire. They are quickly disillusioned, and they realize they are in a rut. The question arises how to transform your life.Transform Your Life

Most people continue doing what they do out of fear of what their family and friends will say. This fear is a well founded for your family and friends will have a need to keep you where you are. For they are also trapped in their own prison.  One reason will be “play it safe you are getting a steady paycheck”. If you take the leap and transform your life you could fail. If you are in the minority, You will break away and transform your life.

While starting up a new career may be exciting, it is not necessary or advisable to start following your heart’s desire full time. You can start up a hobby in your spare time, or you can volunteer in your area of interest. Many companies are encouraging their employees to take on more volunteer opportunities. Even if the company’s motives are not altruistic, volunteering can open doors for employees. They can learn new skills or discover ones they were not aware they possessed.

You may decide to start up your own venture. This will help transform your life in ways that you never imagined. Choosing a business you are passionate about gives you a purpose you may not have gained by staying in your current situation.

This is not to say that starting and running a business is easy. It takes a lot of work and quite a bit of discipline. You become your own boss and have no one to answer to but yourself. While many view this as a good situation to have, it is a double-edged sword. You need to have a good plan and a mentor in place to help guide you towards success.

You may want to live off the grid. This is one example where you need to educate yourself in this life style and the area of the world you want to live off the grid. Just jumping in without any preparation could cost you your life.

More people are discovering that there is no future in retirement. While you may be required or want to retire from your present job or career, this does not mean you need to fill your day with mindless activities.  We were created to create. Retirement could give you the freedom to try many things. You may be in a financial position that you can follow your heart’s desire without getting a financial reward. Some will find that having their own business is the only way to go. They love the challenge and find the work fulfilling. The Internet serves as a great provider of advice and resources to help you succeed. Not everyone is suited to being an entrepreneur.

Find your heart’s desire and follow it. You find success in the journey, not at the finish line.

Start Where You Are

“Start Where You Are”

Do you have a Dream or a Big Job that seems impossible, overwhelming, or just futile? It is not impossible, or futile. It may be overwhelming. The way to walk thru the overwhelming part is to start where you are and use what you have. This in itself will seem like a foolish thing to do. Do it anyway.

I heard Bob Proctor say “Take your big job and break it down into doable parts. If you do not have a big job, find one.” That is a powerful statement. I always seem to have a big job that seems like I can not get it done. How long it drags out is up to me. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, but today I always move closer to the goal, because I use the affirmation “start where you are“.

Put Into Action

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Here is an example of the first time I knowingly made a decision to start where you are and use what you have. There was a great internal battle to walk through to accomplish my goal.
I once wanted to buy a air compressor and the accessories needed to make my job easier. I could not see how I was going to get the money to buy everything I needed. Then one day it came to me to buy a fitting for the end of the hose. This part cost $5. But the mental block told me that was dumb and was worthless without the other parts. The air compressor cost $400, roofing nail gun $350, and the hoses $30 each. Buying one of the fittings for $5 seemed like a futile move.
Plus where I bought my supplies they knew I did not have a air compressor. I knew they would ask ” you got an air compressor?” I would have to say ” No, I am starting where I am and using what I have. I am buying the part I can afford.” This would be embarrassing. But I did it anyway. They asked me. I told them that I am using “starting where you are, use what you have” to get the air compressor and nail gun”. They just looked at me with a confused look and said “okay”. Later that week I bought the other fitting. The next week I bought a hose. The following week I bought the nail gun. 2 weeks after that I bought the air compressor.
I believe if I had not used “start where you are and use what you have” and bought the $5 fitting, it would have taken a couple of years till I got the money together to buy everything at once. Break your task down into doable pieces.

Take the first step and start where you are and use what you have. The next step always becomes clear. How to accomplish this step always becomes clear and the means to do it will be there. If you can see the whole process and how it will all work out, like Bob Proctor says, “the dream or goal is not big enough”.

Self Made Man Through Self Control

I Became A Self Made Man Through Self Control. This was a mixed message I got as a child. Everyone preached you need to make your own destiny. Yet they molded you to walk, dress and act like everyone else

Self Made Man

When being taught self-control, I always seen how it was in the best interest of the person who was teaching me self-control. It was not to my benefit. As there was nothing to be learned through the process. This is the way I seen it, because no one teaching me self control spent any time with me explaining the benefits. Without direction I looked at life through my eyes using the information I had. This information was that the people teaching me self-control had an easier life at my expense. Therefore I resisted any authority.
When I was in 10th grade my math teacher told me he really could use me as a tutor. I wanted to be a tutor. He said that the rest of the teachers would only let me be a tutor if I did my homework in all my classes. I would not present a good image of a tutor the way I was. I just looked at him an said “I guess you really do not want me as a tutor”. Part of me died that day. I gave up something I wanted so that they did not have control of me. Today I understand that I was a self-made man all along and these decisions are what make a self-made man, good or bad.

They presented it as a case of lack of self-control on my part. That I would be teaching others to not do homework, instead of teaching math.
Today I know my strengths and weaknesses. I do not let emotions make my decisions, like I did in 10th grade and most of my life. Most people around me tell me how it is in my best interest to exercise self control. While it is really their interests they are talking about. I need to know the difference.
Personal self-control separates you from the normal way of thinking. This is essential in becoming a self-made man. Self control is not denying who you are. It is not giving control of my life to others. Personal self-control frees me to live my life as I choose and accomplish all the goals I set for myself.

Goal Setting – Writing My Book

I am one of a few who are giving a retreat next weekend. Last year I started by making a commitment to the 25 guys who where attending the retreat. I told them that next year I would hand them a copy of my book.

At the time I did not know what the book would be about. I am not a writer. This makes it even more of a shock that I announced that I would write and publish a book in a year. But what I teach is mental discipline. Make a decision to do something and getting it done. This took mental discipline.

As I was showing my vision board and what had come to pass in the last year, the thought came to me, what better way to show them how to take something you do not know how to do, pick a completion date and go about accomplishing the goal.

My best tool in the whole process was the completion date. This did not allow me alot of time to have a debate over if I could do it or not. I knew it would be done and that was that. I was faced with what to write about. I ponder this a little but not much. Time flew by. It is the end of August, I had not started to do anything yet. Not even a topic to write about. Labor Day weekend was coming up. I would have a few days off. I knew if I did not take this time to write it would really be hard to accomplish my goal. I was looking at the time I had left. There is no time to do much research. This means I need to pick something that I know about and have a personal story to go with it. No research if I lived the book.

My life has been eventful. So I was not lacking for topics. I choose the last big event in my life, because this would be the freshest in my mind. I had just lost 48 pounds over the course of a year and kept it off for the past 6 months. The length of the book would be between 32 pages and 90. I picked 12 for the number of chapters. I knew who I was going to ask to edit my book.

Labor Day weekend I started to write. It was a struggle. One of the things that made it hard was my inexperience with how a book is set up. I was typing my book in word. Not in the format of a book. As I was writing my thoughts went to I will be lucky to get 32 pages. When I put the 35 pages I wrote and edited into the publishers format the book was around 70 pages. As I continued to edit, ideas came to me and I added material and brought the page count up to 80. It is Christmas week.

I needed to typeset the words so it looked good. I did the best I could. There are mistakes in formatting. By my next book I should have them resolved.

I needed a front and back cover designed. This was a little scary. I went to for my graphic artist. He did a great job on the front cover. Now what do I put on the back cover? My biography made the most sense, since I could not think of anything else. I seen a friend of mine Bob Calhoun and asked him to write my biography. He was a little shocked. Told me that he did not know me well enough to write a biography. I asured him he knew enough about me to accomplish the task.

A couple of days later he sent me what he wrote. He nailed it first time. A little editing and the biography on the back cover is what he wrote.

I then got the graphic artist to design the back cover. I already had a relationship with him so that went fast. Uploaded the cover and the text to the publisher. The learning curve was not to bad. I got it to where I liked it. I order a couple of proof copys.

The proof copy showed me some more mistakes. These mistakes I would not have seen on a computer screen, but in a hard copy, they were easy to see. Upload the corrections to the publisher. The only thing left to do was to push the pubish button. Pushed the publish button Febuary 8, 2013.

When you give yourself a deadline and do not entertain doubts you can accomplish anything you want. Never give up!

Happy Thanksgiving 2012

Happy Thanksgiving. Tell everyone your stories today.

I make a lot of mistakes. A goal I have is when I get to a rocking chair on my front porch and there is a child on my lap asking me questions. They ask did you ever do that. I can say yes and tell a story about my experience. Either how I screwed it up or how I screwed it up and then got it right. Does not matter to me which story I tell.

Just imagine, sitting there and the only response you have is no. I was watching the news the day I had a chance to try that.

The few things I did not try, I still have a story about the fear that held me back.

I like telling the stories about how I walked through my fear, instead of the stories of how the fear crippled me.

Happy Thanksgiving.