Monthly Archives: April 2011

You Can Not Find Peace Counting Other People’s Money

This will keep you in a state of unhappiness all the days of your life.  As I practiced changing my mental diet, this always gave me sense of being cheated in this game of life. Looking at what I did not have, while at the same time looking at what everyone else had. The time came when my mentor told me to stop counting other people’s money, and I would find the happiness that was eluding me.

Changing my intake of this food that fuels resentment , was a good choice. Like most things until I stop ingesting the thoughts, blindness is my companion.

I had a conversation with a person this week that showed me how Counting Other People’s Money can turn an otherwise good person bitter. This man had some wind damage to his home. He called his insurance company to file a claim. The adjuster came out and told him what damage he had found. The homeowner did not like the evaluation. The homeowner has a slate roof that needs a few slate replaced and a piece of gutter replace from a wind storm.

There are other homes in the neighborhood getting new roofs. The homeowner sees this and is using this to say he should also get a new roof. I felt sorry for him. He was counting what his neighbors were getting not what his house needed to repair the wind damage.  If he lets this grow inside him it will ruin his happy life.

Be grateful for what you have. It will multiply. Count Other People’s Money and your pile will get smaller.

The Person Who Says It Can Not Be Done Should Not Interupt The Person Doing It.

I have been working on an idea. This idea is to have a daily proverb e-mailed to anyone who signs up for the emails. Here is a sample. Comment and let us know if you are interested in receiving a daily email from the 7 Day Mental Diet.

This is a Chinese Proverb.

The Person Who Says It Can Not Be Done Should Not Interrupt The Person Doing It.

This is one of the biggest Ideologies that separate us from our destiny. We are brainwashed with this lie from birth. You can not do that. We hear this from almost everyone we meet from the cradle to the grave. You can not do that. You can not do that.

The Wright Brothers were told that from everyone. Their father was a minister. He told his sons that they were going to hell just for thinking they could fly.

Thank God, they did not listen to the powers that be. They listened to their hearts and did not ingest – You Can Not Do That. 

If they had listen to their father and everyone else that that told them You Can Not Do That we would lead a very different life then we do.

This has been said to me so many times till I was of an age to make my own decisions, that I was incapable of living my own life and dreams. I have lived most of my life, living someone else’s dreams. I did not understand this for a long time. These voices inside are from my ancestors and other well meaning adults. They just passed down what was given to them. 

This blog the 7 Day Mental Diet was brought to life for this very reason. Together we can find our way, until we do, let us practice this proverb. The way for us to start practicing this is to not stop anyone from doing what they are doing. They do not need your help in failing at what they are attempting to do. They already have a voice inside them that is telling them that they never should have started this. This is too hard.  

Treat people the way you would like to be treated. Plant seeds of support and inspiration in others. This way in your future you will harvest inspiration and support. God will put people in your life to give these words to push you on to your destiny.

Ideologies separate us. Dreams and anguish bring us together.

Ideologies separate us. Dreams and anguish bring us together. Eugène Ionesco

Here may be the biggest hinderance to freedom. Ideologies put on us without the guidance of a holistic teacher, is the breeding ground for hatred and prejudice. When reading that statement, if you do not see yourself with prejudices. You will teach your prejudices as your ideologies.

We are all teachers, willing or unwillingly. We are all teachers. There is someone who looks up to you. That person is watching what you do. This makes you a teacher. They will imitate your actions to be like you.

So as we go through this week. Just remember this before you decide to give your frustration, gossip, anger, lust,… a negative outlet, someone is watching. These people will see your good works and copy them. They will also see the negative and will also assimilate the negative. For our diet this week we will picture ourselves as teachers. The effects of this on your mental state will have a positive effect.

You ask “am I my brothers keeper”? The answer is Yes. We are his keeper, by holding ourselves to a higher level of discipline, not holding our brothers to a higher level. We are not his judge and jury. Let your actions convict him, not your lips.

All roads lead to Rome. This is to say – Different paths will take one to the same goal. Which ever road your fellow man is on will lead him to the same destination you are looking for. Dreams and tragedy are the great equalizer in all of mankind. Once they are gone, we revert to ideologies of right and wrong.

The cure for this mental state of judgment is:

  1. Let our goal be to always have a dream that we are doing something to attain the dream.
  2. Let us always find someone in pain and help them.

Why We Do The Things We Do?

It was Easter and a little girl asked her Mother why she was cutting off  part of the ham and putting it in another pot. The Mother just looked at her daughter with a very confused look. She had never been asked that question before. She struggled for an answer. Her daughter put her on the spot.

Caught, in her ignorance, she was embarrassed. Not wanting to lie to her daughter. The thought came to her, my mom used to do the same thing. Finding a way to look intelligent to her daughter, she said, ask your grandmother.

The little girl, asked grammy “why do we cut the end off the ham and put it in another pot”? Grammy said ” I do not know why your mom does that. I used to cut the end off the ham because I needed ham for 20 people and only had a pot big enough for a ham that feed 16. So I bought the ham to feed 20 cut the end off and put it in another pot. This way I had enough ham for everyone.

Why do you do the things you do? Is there a good reason? Does it serve a purpose? Or have you been conditioned by your environment, peers, parents, church, your fears…

To live life to the fullest, you need to do what you do on purpose. This is only accomplished by asking, why do I do that? Some behaviors will just take a decision to change. Other behaviors will go right to our core beliefs, and even though they are destructive, we will continue on in them.  

When we are faced with such a behavior, a higher power can give us the strength to break these habits. Find people that act the way you would like to be like and spend time with them. You will be like the people you surround yourself with. Choose wisely.

Takes Two Fools To Argue – One To End It

Educating myself played a big part in changing my mental diet. This little phrase was easy to say when the pressure was on. When the pressure is on, is not the time to initiate the diet. So use your time wisely. Watching TV , participating in idle conversation… is not a constructive use of your time.

I have found Proverbs to be a good way to re-school my mind. You can use it for a daily reading. There are 31 chapters in Proverbs. One for each day. Starting the day in the right frame of mind is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Having items on you and around you are very important to surviving this 7 day mental diet. In my pants pockets are Coins that reminded me where I came from and where I am going. I have a prayer rope. I also carry a rosary. In my truck are several books. There are pictures on the walls. Use anything that will remind you of what you are trying to do.

If you try to do this only with your mind you will lose the battle. Old ideas must be dismissed. New ideas must be implemented. Prayer is center point. Staying in contact with your God is crucial. Having visual reminders, use a prayer rope or a rosary when your hands are idle. This 7 day mental diet takes a mental, physical and spiritual approach. It is like a trying to sit on a 3 legged stool with one leg missing. You will at some point lose your balance.

Here is another phrase from the same family.
Never argue with a fool, it will look like the conversation of two fools, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. With this phrase you will start to see yourself like the world sees you. At some point this will keep you from acting out on your thoughts.

When In Doubt Don’t

Then the day is over, television will give some relief, and occupy my mind. 11:00 is coming soon. It will be time to go to sleep. This thought brings back the terror. For you know that when they catch up with you, you will be sleeping. You know you need sleep so you can do your job tomorrow. But the idea of going to sleep is overwhelming. So you sit in front of the TV. You begin to dose off. You catch yourself. You fight sleep.Why?

You know that one day they will catch up with you and lock you up in the nut ward. You just know that when they come it will be at night when you are sleeping. So you fight sleep at all costs.

This has been going on since childhood. For a time alcohol dealt with this and allowed me to go to sleep, Alcohol was not consistent in its relief, it also raised another set of problems that compounded the state of anxiety. When you are sitting in this hopelessness. Any relief is better then none, so you drink.

I get some hope and put down the drink. The advice I get is “When In Doubt Don’t”. If you have any doubt about what you plan to do. Do not do it. This looked like a real bogey man. Scared me to death. So I told John my thoughts “If I do not act nothing will happen. He told me that, that was not the case. By not acting on thoughts that I had doubts about, this would call the bogey man out into the open and shed light on him. And shinning light on the bogey man makes him disappear. John would say “what do you have to lose by trying this”.

My life was in such a shambles. How do you argue with this logic. The strength came from remembering where you have come from. If you do not keep moving forward, you will go back.

So, the journey of standing still starts. Here you are Lefty, at a stop sign. Which way do you go? Confused, do what John said, just sit here to you know. Trying to know which way to go. All of a sudden, a horn blows. Someone behind me wants to go. All doubt leaves and I make a left turn.
Now I come to another turn, doubt sets back in….
Success or failure is in how this scenario is processed. So you are in doubt about which way to go. You make a decision to sit there till you are sure about which way to go. Someone gives you new information with the blowing of their horn. With this information you are sure that the right thing to do is get out of the intersection, you turn left.

You will always be at an intersection in your life. You are always making a desicion.  Do this for 7 days, your life will change. This process will become easier and faster.

You have made a choice to put a new entree on your mental diet. “When In Doubt Don’t” 
You put this into practice on a consistent basis, your life will get better. You will make better decisions.  If you find yourself in this article, comment and subscribe. We will walk this path together.

The Man In The Glass

In the early days of this journey, there were different people who I would sit with and listen to their stories. Ed was one. He used to say “I have mirrors all over the house. Just so I can look at myself when I walk by. There was a time when other than to shave, I could not”. My thought was “what an egotistical man”.

Actively changing my mental diet, I would say to myself “There is something you are missing here. This man used to be where you where. Ed has not been there in a long time. What could Ed possibly be saying?” The conversations I would have would always come to the conclusion. Ed is full of himself. Saying to myself, “Lefty, you need to figure out what he means. He is happy and content with himself”.  

So I would look into my mirror, trying to see what he saw. Sure enough, the only thing I could do was brush my teeth and comb my hair. Any longer was unbearable. There was an overwhelming sense of quilt, that I seen in the mirror.

Then one day, the poem “The Man In The Glass” came across my path. This became a mainstay of my mental diet. If you have never heard this poem, here it is. It will at least make you think, Hopefully it will get you to go to a mirror and look yourself straight in the eye. 

If you have made the life changing decision to go to the mirror, take a pencil and tablet with you. Then look into the mirror and gaze into your eyes. Keep looking, as long as you can. Write down what happens. Who’s image came to mind, first, second… Do not edit what you write down. Honesty counts here. What events of your past come to mind. 

If nothing comes up. You are where I was. I just could not look at myself. I kept talking to these men and going back to the mirror. Do not give up. Today I can gaze into my eyes without my skin crawling. 

The Man In The Glass 

Peter “Dale” Winbrow Sr

 

When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day,
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.

For it isn’t your father or mother or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass.
The fellow whose verdict counts most in you life
Is the one staring back from the glass.

You may be like Jack Horner and chisel a plum
And think you’re a wonderful guy.
But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum
If you can’t look him straight in the eye.

He’s the fellow to please-never mind all the rest,
For he’s with you clear to the end.
And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the man in the glass is your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass.
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

Keep telling yourself. If it happened for them, it can happen for me to.

Children’s Books My Lifeline

I had lost control of my mind. It would race and it went where ever it wanted to go. I had deteriorated to being overwhelmed by my thoughts. Fear had gotten a firm grip on my mind and emotions. It was crippling. I found relief in children’s books.

At this point, you are in a downward spiral. The anxiety is gaining momentum. Depression is setting in. The only thing you can think of to combat this is to think of how you got to this point and what you need to do to get back on track. Your mind races from one thought to another. Every once in a while you come up with a positive thought. Instantly it is gone. And the racing starts again.

I could not hold a thought. When I read, by the time I got to the end of a sentence, I forgot how it started. It was frustrating. I told John that this reading was not working. He said, “what do you mean it is not working”? I can not remember what I read. His response to this ” I did not tell you to remember anything. Just to read the book. Start at the first word, then read the second word then…. till you get to the end.

The battle for control of my mind, looking through my eyes, seemed to be a lost cause. The truth was that I was winning the battle. Without someone to guide me out of the maze in my mind, the battle would have been lost. Albert Einstein said, ” you can not cure the sick mind with the mind that created the problem”. Going it alone does not work.

Constantly looking for the reasons why I was like this. John would tell me stories like. Let’s get the Jackass out of the ditch and on his way. Then if there is time we can figure out why the Jackass ran into the ditch. 20 years later still not sure why I ran into the ditch.

Well, I seem to have a style like Jean Sheperd. Starting with a point to be made at the beginning of the show. Then wondering off for 40 minutes to making the point right before the show ends.

One Saturday at a garage sale picked up the book 3 Little Pigs. Standing there I read the book through. It was easy to read. Pictures took up most of the page. A sentence or two at the bottom. Amazed, saying to myself, you just read that book and remembered everything. LIt up like a Christmas tree, success does that for us, I made a decision to buy that book and read children’s books for my answers and guidance.

“The Three Little Pigs” made perfect sense to me. I had a choice to make. Which type of house was I going to build? “The Little Engine That Could” told me to never, never, never, ever give up. I am still reading children’s books.

Brainwashing – Did I Need It?

When hitting that point in my life that going on the way I was, was just to hard, I was sitting in an institution court ordered. I had not volunteered. This man came and talked to me about how he was once sitting where I was. John told me about what lead up to sitting, 10 years earlier, in the same chair I was in. Then telling me what he did upon leaving that institution and putting his life back together. It was the first time in my life that I had hope with a real belief that I could turn my life around. The fight was out of me. I surrendered…

The two of us could not have been more different physically, education, and socially. LOL Below is a caricature of myself done a few weeks ago. I am 5’10”. I have not changed on the outside. I could not find a picture that even comes close to John. So I found the closest red bow tie and the age. The rest you will have to use your imagination. Here is what your imagination needs to put into the picture, he is wearing a suit, 6’3″, clean shaven, and a Crew Cut.

Red bow tie

The thought came to me, which was my lives goal. I will not be a puppet!!! 36 years old and I have nothing to show for my life. Yet, my mind is screaming, these people are trying to brainwash you. You know what happens to people that get brainwashed. Yes, I know, they shave their heads and stand at airports and sell roses, or worse yet, they give their life to Jesus and live in a grass shack in Africa or the jungles in Southeast Asia.

It was a terrible battle in my head. Here is my biggest fear in life to be brainwashed. This guy walks into my life, looking like that. No man would willing look like that. LOL He had to be brainwashed. He presents his life in such a way, that i buy into going where he goes, doing what he does.

When I got out of that institution and went back home, I found another man to clear my thoughts with. I knew one thing for sure, if I kept talking to myself, I would lose the battle. I started to say the things that were going through my head out loud. I told the man I found at home, who was also named John, that I thought him and the rest of his friends were trying to brainwash me. He just laughed and said ” your brain needs washing”.

This was a major turning point in my life. I believed what John had said. My progress in the mental diet speeded up. For unlike brainwashing, where you are not a willing participant, I became a willing participant, in washing my brain.

I changed the people I talked to , the places I went, and the things I did and read.